I'm making a living doing things that I love, able to pursue my passion of film-making on the side and am loving being a Mommie to my 5 year old bouncy boy. So what is missing from this picture, you know what.......... a honey bunny.So, I'm a smart, funny, ambitious, sexy woman you say, what is the problem? I can answer that for you, the lack of Woo.
This is how my dates usually go; he (place any he here) calls me, ask me where I want to go, text me when he's outside, takes me to the place I suggested, works overtime to try to gear the conversation in a sexual direction without being blatant, takes me home, attempts to kiss me, then text me when he gets home. Where's the woo in that?
Here's what woo looks like; he chooses where we go, he comes to my door when he arrives, he opens the car door for me on all entrances and exits, the date itself doesn't have to be over the top just something that clearly required some thought and planning. That would tell me that he was interested enough to make an effort. This outing would have some space for us to chat and get to know each other and the conversation would cover art, current events, our upbringing and family. When we arrived back to my home he would walk me to the door where I would gladly give him a kiss if all has gone well and then he calls me, not text, when he gets home for a final goodnight.
I hear a lot of guys complain that women don't cook and don't carry out other traditionally feminine acts but it goes both ways. If you want me to come over and cook, iron a shirt for you, impress your boss with my charm I have no problem with that but I need the woo in exchange. In today's world women work and often bring equal and/or more pay to the table to cover expenses yet men still want all the traditional women task to be met by the very woman he no longer feels the desire to woo. Look, I have guy friends like actor Lem Collins, engineer Raphael Siebenmann and a host of others for whom this is not a problem, their wives have virtually no complaints, but if you noticed I said their wives have no complaints, some women decided to spend their lives with them because they are Masters of the Woo.
Great points. What's interesting to me is that I thought almost every guy at least starts out with the Woo. No excuse for that. However, the disappearance of the Woo (when initially present) may not always be the result of laziness, ignorance or bad intentions. Actually, the Woo can be pushed away. How, you ask? Examples: by not being thankful, comparing to others, never being satisfied, only pointing out the negatives, etc. Yes, these things lead to the disappearance of the Woo. For the record, I'm not for a second suggesting that you are the reason for the lack of Woo that you described. :-)
ReplyDeleteYou make some very valid points, I can see the Woo disappearing with there is no gratitude for it but you are also correct in saying there is no excuse for there being none from the start.
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DeleteAngela D. I love this one Kim. I feel some guys only offer the Woo in the beginning because they are only interested in the chase. Once they have satisfied the hunter in them the Woo stops with the woman he feels he's conquered, but he is definitely off Wooing some other quest. Because this type of man lacks any real substance he simply can't maintain the Woo, he collects women but cherishes none of them and it’s to much work for him to Woo more than one woman at a time, and why should he? Since he’s dishonest from the beginning; he has all he ever wanted which was nothing but self gratification. Unlike the good men like Lem and Raphael who are genuine and HONOR their women with real love and marriage this other type of Wooer is simply a player. His Woo was never sincere so he can't continue wearing the mask the poor thing is suffocating underneath it. Only a real man can maintain the Woo. BTW...this does not apply to all the good men.
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